In elementary school and high school it is easier to make friends since you see the same people day in and day out and progress from one school to another together. Lucky for me, I formed some of the GREATEST friendships and relationships growing up, especially in high school. High school was one of the best times in my life thanks mostly to me friends.
After high school graduation I began to learn more about what ‘true’ friend means. Some friendships dissipate as it becomes too hard to try to stay in contact with one another. It takes a lot of time to make that call and listen to your friend recap their life for an hour or so or drive down to visit them at their school. One friend may stop putting forth effort leaving another friend to work even harder to stay in touch. In contrast many friendships, including most of mine, remain strong even after friends move on with life. These friends remember each other and are there for each other in good and bad times, even if it is not always physically. These ‘true’ friends are the ones that are worth your time and energy since they make time for you too. You think about these true friends all the time and hope they are doing well because you know they are thinking about you.
These true friendships became the model I used for friends in college and throughout life. In college it became harder to make friends since most people have not met before and everyone is from a different place. It is like in kindergarten trying to make all new friends. It is more difficult also because students do not see each other everyday, they are busier with classes, work, and personal agendas, and it takes more effort to plan or spend time together with friends. Just remember that the new ‘true’ friends are worth the extra time and effort because to them you are worth the extra time and effort. These friendships just like those of the past are the ones that will stay with you forever.
“True” Friend:
· Remembers to call you once in a while and not just to call you back.
· Knows more about you than most other people because you confide in them so much.
· Does not always see eye to eye with you but will hear you out.
· Is willing to sit on the phone with you for an hour while you cry even if they have a hot date with them at the time.
· Accepts you for you and loves you more for it.
· Accepts ANY changes you go through as you progress through life.
· Supports you and your decisions simply because you are friends, EVEN IF they do not agree with you.
· Makes you feel special with random notes, calls, emails, surprises, secrets, etc.
· Wants to hear about your gripes and accomplishes because it makes them feel more apart of your life.
· Is friends with you for more than your car, your status, your social network or even your mom’s food.
· Makes time for you even if they don’t have time.
After high school graduation I began to learn more about what ‘true’ friend means. Some friendships dissipate as it becomes too hard to try to stay in contact with one another. It takes a lot of time to make that call and listen to your friend recap their life for an hour or so or drive down to visit them at their school. One friend may stop putting forth effort leaving another friend to work even harder to stay in touch. In contrast many friendships, including most of mine, remain strong even after friends move on with life. These friends remember each other and are there for each other in good and bad times, even if it is not always physically. These ‘true’ friends are the ones that are worth your time and energy since they make time for you too. You think about these true friends all the time and hope they are doing well because you know they are thinking about you.
These true friendships became the model I used for friends in college and throughout life. In college it became harder to make friends since most people have not met before and everyone is from a different place. It is like in kindergarten trying to make all new friends. It is more difficult also because students do not see each other everyday, they are busier with classes, work, and personal agendas, and it takes more effort to plan or spend time together with friends. Just remember that the new ‘true’ friends are worth the extra time and effort because to them you are worth the extra time and effort. These friendships just like those of the past are the ones that will stay with you forever.
“True” Friend:
· Remembers to call you once in a while and not just to call you back.
· Knows more about you than most other people because you confide in them so much.
· Does not always see eye to eye with you but will hear you out.
· Is willing to sit on the phone with you for an hour while you cry even if they have a hot date with them at the time.
· Accepts you for you and loves you more for it.
· Accepts ANY changes you go through as you progress through life.
· Supports you and your decisions simply because you are friends, EVEN IF they do not agree with you.
· Makes you feel special with random notes, calls, emails, surprises, secrets, etc.
· Wants to hear about your gripes and accomplishes because it makes them feel more apart of your life.
· Is friends with you for more than your car, your status, your social network or even your mom’s food.
· Makes time for you even if they don’t have time.
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